Shy

May 28, 2008 at 1:03 pm 5 comments

I think I may have mentioned that I’m addicted to the WordPress blog stats. It’s totally an ego-surfing thing. But I’d pretty much resigned myself to the fact that this blog was going to be just one of many, many sex blogs out there (see the links in the sidebar for more). Probably never as well-read as Always Aroused Girl, Bitchy Jones, or any of the other really top-notch sexxxay blogs. And I was mostly okay with that. I’ve been writing since I was a wee thing, and I’ve come to realize that writing is about the act of self-expression, and about touching other people. Touching a lot of people with one’s writing doesn’t necessarily make for a more intimate connection. It can just make for a more overwhelming experience. I knew that if I submitted to sugasm I’d probably have a decent chance of being featured; laziness has prevented me.

And fear, to a certain extent. The spectacular outing of Abby Lee is certainly a cautionary tale. And Always Aroused Girl has written about her parents’ discovery of her metier. Since I have neither a book deal nor any income from this blog, it’s unlikely that anyone would care enough to discover the identity of the Omnivore (ew, she’s referring to herself in the third person again, isn’t that creepy?).

Overshare on the web is only really fun if you don’t know the identity of the person — or better yet, if you’re the person who is anonymous. Bitchy said it well in her TV interview (and I’m paraphrasing here ’cause it’s a long-ass video): anonymity allows a woman in a sense to speak for all women in terms of female desire, and to speak without fear of retribution. Of course, you need to qualify that “speaking for all women” nonsense with the fact that we all have our own kinks. I hear tell that dominant women are hard to come by or something. I think it’s the PVC corsets that scare most of us off.

Because acknowledging female desire and sexuality for the powerful thing that it is, and owning it, is still a dangerous and revolutionary act. Add kink to the equation, and fuggedaboudit.

All this comes, of course, from my 15 minutes of fame in Fleshbot, (thanks, AAG! I’ve been following you via RSS for months!) which shot my usually pokey number of visits through the roof. I find it amusing that a good number of people seem to have found my blog by searching for the keywords “enormous cocks,” and “femdom whore.” Given that my opinion of men with enormous cocks as a class is pretty low, and that I’m adamantly NOT a prodom (apologies to my sisters who make a living at that so-time-honored profession — I was making a point at the time), I doubt that the searchers found what they were looking for.

There is smut on this blog, though — plenty of it, even if it’s not really tagged properly. That’s really the point. Hot, sexy stories that are 100% true. As Urban Rogue said, “I think sex blogs are awesome because people can be themselves.” It’s often tempting to move into some idealized notion of what sex should be like, but ultimately, the honest experience of sexuality, warts and all, is much more compelling for me. And it also makes me feel like much less of a dork when I do things you don’t see in mainstream porn. Like, say, mark up a man’s bottom when I didn’t mean to, or let him accidentally slip out when we’re changing position. Or ::gasp:: fart during coitus. I mean, that NEVER happens, right?

I’d actually like to know what you all would like to hear about next. I mean, would you rather that I go on and on about what Bran and I did last night? It’s hot and all and we’ll do our best to keep it fresh for you, but I’ve got tons of stories from the past that are equally exciting. Like the first time I drank from the furry cup. Or my real first group experience (I lied when I said it was this one). Or one of my many, many heartbreaks. Or something else. I know I’m forgetting something. There’s been so very much sex. And learning about sex. I’d like to know what you want to hear.

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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. aag  |  May 28, 2008 at 2:09 pm

    Aw, thank you for the linky love. There’s a clip on Kink.com’s blog that show’s porn performer gaffes. It’s pretty damn funny.

  • 2. omnivoresdilemma  |  May 28, 2008 at 6:40 pm

    Linky love is what I do, m’dear. I’m especially fond of your short interludes, the little “slice of sex” moments. And that post about giving your daughter the foundations of sex-positivity (http://aagblog.com/2008/05/06/it-all-adds-up/) really made me smile. My mom had her moments that way too. Well, given who I turned out to be, probably more than moments šŸ™‚

  • 3. allforher  |  May 29, 2008 at 7:06 pm

    I hope that my being a part of the many, many, sex blogs out there isn’t a bad thing…

  • 4. omnivoresdilemma  |  May 31, 2008 at 1:02 am

    Of course not, silly. I drool over your descriptions of mopping the floor for your wife. She’s a lucky, lucky bitch.

  • 5. allforher  |  May 31, 2008 at 6:45 am

    Thanks for the love.
    I’ll be popping in to keep up with your rantings. Yay, new things to read!

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